1. Manis & Pedis, of course
Let me tell you, I have been obsessed with my nails forever. Ever since my mother let me get a "kids style manicure" at the ripe age of five years old I've been super into my nails. A chipped nail has me stressed for hours until I can go home and remedy it. I'm not really into this nail art trend. I'll do some glitter and a simple decal, but really the girls in nail shops on Crenshaw have been doing bomb nail art since the 80s and I hate that salons in West Hollywood charge upwards of $100 for some swirls and design.
But, I digress. I love that I can get manis and pedis every week and it isn't seen as superficial or insane. Yes maybe a bit indulgent, but I'm a lady and my digits need to look polished and fresh whenever I'm flipping it to someone who makes a vulgar comment. Also, I love that most of the compliments I get on my nails are from boys these days. I feel like for the previous five years men never cared about my nails if they were painted, bare, chipped, whatever. But lately men are taking notice, and I notice that noticing.
2. Being able to borrow from the boys
We ladies have it lucky. Most of us can just go into our boyfriend's (or dad's or brother's) wardrobes and grab something and make it uniquely feminine. Think Sharon Stone a la wearing her husband Gap button down on the red carpet. I mean c'mon! No dude can go into his ladies closet and pull stuff out and look great it in. Okay, maybe some. But when it comes to me, I'm usually the one pulling hats and t-shirts from my dudes polished closet.
3. Sharing with other women
Now, I can't say this is uniquely something women do but it is definitely something that most women share very closely. I'm talking about when you're in the care, on the subway, out dancing and you have these moments with other women that you connect and talk and laugh and share and it is an urge in that moment to say "fuck yeah we are women!" Maybe men connect like this too, but I don't think it happens as often. There are so many times that I marvel at women. Their beauty, their depth and their strength. There is a sense of empowerment being a woman, and learning from other women, and sharing with other women to get beautiful advice or feedback or just stories. I'm not trying to sound like Beyonce, but being a woman is so special because of the bonds we share with other women and the amazing women throughout history or in our lives we can look to for advice and guidance. That's why I get so mad when I see that society tries to impose this idea that women are always in competition with one another, and all women hate other women. I really don't think that's the case. Yes, everyone has someone they don't like but life isn't and shouldn't be about being the HBIC of all women. It should be about being the best woman you can be for yourself.