Thursday, February 13, 2014

instagram life wayyyy late-ly: october-present

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looking like a dummy walking around my bb's neighborhood; few things i love more than ice cream
Joshua Tree trip; thanksgiving was swell
black friday was brutal at the kickboxing studio; natural history museum trip!
pretty ceiling; bb's bday
Santa oh Santa; the Lakers continue to break my heart
we always find a way to match; New Years lovin
just after midnight; how i spent New Years day
birthday smiles; birthday beauties
my favorite birthday gift from my favorite boy; pretties
obviously 25 looks good on me; got a new job so i got treated to cake!
Griffith Park hike; new bookshelf at the apartment
the only reason Super Bowl Sunday was good; super into my new pants
yo, i need a haircut

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

recent realizations

1.  The city of Los Angeles give you no incentive to abide by the law.  Dealing with my awful hit & run accident from October has shown me that despite having video & photos of the incident and basically all the information you could need to catch a person, people suffer no consequences for the actions.  Where is the justice?!
2.  Beyonce can do everything we normals cant.  Case in point:  hats with ears
3.  Aquafor is better than all else.  Don't even bring that burts bees mess in my vicinity.
4.  Sushi burritos exist and they are EVERYTHING
5.  People who constantly talk about sex/boys on social media are most definitely terrible at life

Friday, January 31, 2014

how a promotion helped me swim again

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I have never, ever been the kind of person who looks to their job for gratification or some fulfillment of happiness. Sure, days are easier when you like your job--but when it comes to happiness the last place I'm looking is my professional life.  A job is a job is a job.  Whether its your dream job or a job for the now, it should be what you do not who you are  At least that is my perspective--life, friends and family is where I find my happiness.  Even still, the last year had been very tough on me.  I had been in a job I didn't really like very much because I wasn't challenged and undervalued.  
I constantly felt bored, having an hour every day between tasks to troll Etsy for things I didn't need and would never buy.  And even though I was very good at my job and always got verbal praise, the financial praise never came.  No one ever seemed interested in giving me more work, even though it seemed like I was begging for it at times; whenever a position in my department opened up with room for growth I was constantly told that in time that would be appropriate for me, but for now I needed to grow more.  Grow?  I felt like I was bursting at the seems waiting to be challenged, to be engaged, to do more!  
The straw that broke the camels back came last May. It started with management asking to me to help on some administrative stuff on the submission of a multi-million dollar grant.  You know, no big deal just stuff like numbering pages, changing headers.  Essentially looking for consistency.  But after a few days I started to feel like things were really started being dumped on me.  I was being asked to do research, change budget number, collect signatures on contracts, and a whole slew of things that went beyond my pay grade.  All I kept thinking was how these things were so not my job, and I would be open to doing these things except there actually is someone who is paid to do these things.  There is someone who was given this job because they were classified as competent.  And oddly enough, this person had no clue what they were doing and shuffled through papers whenever someone pointed out this incompetence.  Yet here I am, the dummy of all dummies, doing work that someone else is getting paid for while simultaneous being told that I am not at the level I need to be in order to have a position like that.  
When all was said and done, I found myself having racked up 15hrs in overtime in one week, working at my cubicle through the weekend, and being only one of two people helping with the submission that came down to the wire.  And what was my thank you?  A bonus? A promotion? Ahhh you all are just dreamers!  I came to work on Monday morning to find a $10 Starbucks gift card sitting on my keyboard.  In that moment the rage boiled over to the point where I took the gift card straight to the shredder and let that baby die.  
From that day I knew I had enough and it was time to move on.  The thing about not being valued is that it begins to take a real toll on how you view yourself.  At first I thought maybe I wasn't working hard enough which was why I wasn't being recognized for my work.  Then as I worked harder I thought maybe I wasn't showing how I could go above and beyond.  Then when I went above and beyond and beyond and to infinity and beyond and still got no recognition, I thought there really just must be something wrong with me.  I must be doing something wrong that people don't see my effort.  These feelings never took a toll on my work ethic, but rather on my self worth.  I am someone who has worked since I was 13 yeas old.  I was always told how good I was at my various jobs and often promoted or praised for my efforts.  What was I doing wrong this time?
After months of these feelings I knew I had to do something to get the ball rolling for things to change.  Finally I took a leap (after much encouragement from my boyfriend and family) and applied for a job that, in my head, was way out of my league.  To my surprise I got an interview, and to my even greater surprise I got the job two hours after I walked out of the interview.  Glowing with happiness and excitement, I locked myself in the office next to my cubicle and did a dance and leap for this fresh start that at times felt like would never come  The following Monday I informed my superior that I got a promotion and would be leaving the department.  And rather than experiencing happiness and showing support for me moving on to bigger and better things, the reaction was less than I expected.  
The strange thing was, every one of my peers was so happy for me but every one of my superiors met me with the same reaction.  "Oh, you're leaving us?  Oh my god.  Um okay.  Well I guess congratulations.  That's good for you.  It's going to be so tough to figure everything out before you leave."  Words that I so desperately needed to hear.  Because in that moment I realized exactly why I wasn't getting anywhere even with all my hard work.  It was in that moment that I realized that people are willing to hold you back so that they can keep you and not have to search for someone to fill the very big shoes you have created.  The old cliche that people will hold you back so that they can get ahead wasn't applicable in this situation.  People were holding me back so that I wouldn't realize my full potential and to make feel as though my only option was to swim in place. 
Two weeks into my new job and I couldn't be happier.  I have pushed away all that negativity and harbored resentment that I held for so long and feel this flush of positive energy.  Everyone around me seems genuinely happy to have me here and finally, after three years of it sinking to the bottom, my confidence in my abilities and work have swam to the surface again.  

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

25 to do before 26

Yikes!  26!  I'm already super feeling 25.  I have an amazing new job, very happy in my personal life, love where I live, and finally feel like adulthood has a nice rhythm to it.  So here it is, my ambition list of 25 things to do before I'm 26!

1.  Visit a new country
2.  Start saving more
3.  Open a retirement account (yikes!)
4.  Take my GRE Exam and apply to grad school
5.  Do more with my hair and get out of the habit of boring looks
6.  Keep up with my fitness and continue to work out four days a week
7.  Drop 5 lbs
8.  Take a break from technology more often
9.  Take a trip to Big Sur
10.  Do volunteer work
11.  Take more pictures of friends and loved ones, because I know I will treasure every photo as the years pass by
12.  More long walks and activities after work (i.e. don't allow myself to get so tired after work!)
13. Send letters to friends abroad MORE!
14.  Read 10 books
15.  Be the kindest I can be to others and work on my temper (especially while driving)
16.  Go on more hikes (because Los Angeles is beautiful)
17.  Drive much, much less
18.  Consume less celebrity gossip (sorry, it's my weakness)
19.  Get strong enough to do 10 pull ups (sounds easy but soooo is not)
20.  Go make-up free more
21.  Become better at time management (I'm pretty good with this already, but I know there are minutes that add up to hours that I am wasting!)
22.  Get a couple more holes in my ears
23.  Cook more veggie meals
24.  Do Angel's Flight in DTLA
25.  Drink more wine (because I don't do it enough and it makes me happy!)


Thursday, January 9, 2014

Final Update: 24 to do before 25

I had a birthday on Tuesday, so it's time to revisit my list of goals:

1.  Fix up my bike/get a new bike and ride more.  Winter weather seems to have slowed me down.  I didn't fix up my bike but I definitely rode more this year.  Not as much as I would have liked, but I did.
2.  Move.
3.  Visit a couple more states I've never been to, maybe a country.  Sadly, I did not go anywhere new, but Chicago is in my future in 2014, and if I'm lucky so is a new country.
4.  Continue eating healthy and drinking lots of water each day.
5.  Focus on stressing less and remembering the important things.  This is always  a work in progress though.  I still have a long ways to go.
6.  Write more.  Lots more.
7.  Buy an espresso machine and make more coffee at home!  Didn't happen.  Not even close
8.  Pay off half of my last student loan.
9.  Be more open to things that are either a little scary or not necessarily my first choice.  I went camping this year for the first time every so I consider this very accomplished.
10.  Start to exercise a bit.  Some Pop Physique classes here and there along with hikes.  My non exercise routine will catch up with me!  I completely kicked this goals ass!  Literally!  I've been kickboxing four days a week for the past four months.
11.  Spend more time with my family.
12.  Do more freelance work.  Unfortunately, I only got two pieces freelanced this year.  But to be fair I've been busy studying for the GRE
13.  Take French II, again.  Again, the option in my head was to either start studying for the GRE or get back into French.  French lost.
14.  Keep my relationship strong and wonderful.  This is always a work in progress and I hope to be better and more patient as time goes on.
15.  Try to wear more heels.  This isn't a promise, but a possibility.  I am always the shortest person in the room.  I'm still a flats person, but I wore heels more this year than most.
16.  Go to Palm Springs in the summertime.
17.  Go camping for the first time.
18.  Spend less time reading celebrity gossip on my computer and spend that time reading more.  I still love my trashy news though
19.  Bake at least five cakes.  The last two times I made cakes they seemed to go horribly wrong, but I will not be discouraged!  Nope, not even close.
20.  Discover a new artist.
21.  Start writing cards for friends/family more.
22.  Create a delicious cocktail.  Hot toddies have been a staple at my house lately
23.  Learn to cook a few more recipes from my grandmother's cookbook.
24.  Ride a scooter (the motorized kind!).


17 of 24 aint so bad in my opinion.  25 to do before 26 coming soon!

Thursday, December 26, 2013

home sweet home

Oh lord, I know it's been a while but honey the holidays don't play.  I've been quite busy and good things are in the works and it seems the universe is finally listening to my voicemails, begging for a positive change.  Aside from that, my lovely apartment has been coming together very nicely mostly thanks to all the eyegasms Pinterests offers me on the daily.  Here are a few of my favorite homespirations!


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source:  all Pinterest

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Things I bought recently and didn't hate

things i bought recently and didn't hate


1)  My new, very cherished faux leather jacket is the compliment magnet I hoped it would be.
2)  Yes, these boots are as bad ass in person as they look in photos.  And they're comfortable!
3)  Goyard, my new happy place.
4)  New vase, perfect for the too many flowers I buy too often.
5)  I bought this tea because of the image on the box.  That should tell you the age of my brain.
6)  The prettiest rug for my very white apartment.  
7)  Because I ripped my last faux leather pants getting into a truck.  Yup, they were tight.  
8)  Marshmallow nails, and on my plate please!
9)  To feed my new kickboxing addiction I bought an unlimited monthly membership.
10)  New book, because I need some lolz in between studying for the GREs.
11)  It took me a while to pick new running shoes, but these were the pretty winners.